Receptive to Bliss
Ok, those that know me are thinking, “Debora is writing about emotional balance? She’s the most emotional being in the universe. How can she even bring herself to think about advising us on emotional balance?”
Well…, I do have some experience with working very hard on keeping my emotions from overrunning my life. I have a Scorpio moon, which for those of you that aren’t up on astrology, means that I have extremely high emotions. Tending to either love or hate, seeing and feeling in the black and white. Not so easy to deal with. Some of my most difficult work has been on balancing these sometimes overpowering emotions. I have a lot of experience in this department and have made quite a bit of progress…
Our emotions can cloud our rational and critical thinking processes. Our emotions can run so high that they overflow and drown out other information that could help or hurt us. We need to keep ourselves clear at times to be able to function in a difficult yet beautiful world.
On the other hand, some of us tend to keep our emotions so bottled up that we ourselves don’t know how we feel. Some of us have no outlet. (I’d blow up or go screaming nuts if I didn’t write.) We can bottle ourselves up so tightly that nothing goes out and at the same time we let nothing in. This way of dealing with emotions can be a protective measure but we may miss out on the beauty that could be flowing in to feed us good stuff.
We have to feel. No doubt about it. I’ve asked nurses and doctors how they deal with the painful realities and the subsequent emotional responses they feel that they must face with their patients. Most can’t really give me one clear answer as to how they do it. They just say they deal with it. (Not very helpful I might add.) But most have said this much, that to be a good and proactive healer you can’t just shut yourself off from your feelings. I’d imagine those that do shut themselves off are the nurses some of us have encountered in the hospital that were cold, rough and had the bedside manner of a WWF wrestler. So we come up with ways to feel that won’t shut us down. I’m still working on this and I’ll let you know if I ever figure it out.
For now I simply allow myself to feel and I sometimes display those feelings to those around me and guess what, the world doesn’t end if people see me crying or laughing out loud. Sometimes I actually get the feeling that some of those folks envy my being able to let it out so freely. Don’t worry about it.
We must allow ourselves to feel if we are to help heal others as well as ourselves. At the same time we must get a grip on those emotions so that we can function with a clear mind and remain open to the world and what it has to offer.
Displaying positive emotions must be kept in check if they make us oblivious to the pain of those around us. Kind of like bragging about how much weight you’ve lost to a friend that keeps on gaining. Or going on and on about your hot love affair to someone that just found out her husband is cheating on her etc… Your happiness with yourself can be considered insensitive, so know when and where to display those feelings. Tune into those around you.